Badass women: 3 November 2016
Mila Kunis, the Stanford rape victim, Amanda Nguyen, Romi Bean and Lindsey Wixson are the women taking a stand against sexism this week
Mila Kunis doesn't think that change is happening fast enough for women in the workplace despite the open ongoing discussions about pay inequality and rape culture. And to prove that it isn't progressing fast enough, she wrote a very powerful essay on A Plus.
"Throughout my career, there have been moments when I have been insulted, sidelined, paid less, creatively ignored, and otherwise diminished based on my gender," she wrote. "And always, I tried to give people the benefit of the doubt; maybe they knew more, maybe they had more experience, maybe there was something I was missing. I taught myself that to succeed as a woman in this industry I had to play by the rules of the boy's club. But the older I got and the longer I worked in this industry, the more I realised that it's bullshit! And, worse, that I was complicit in allowing it to happen."
"I'm done compromising; even more so, I'm done with being compromised. So from this point forward, when I am confronted with one of these comments, subtle or overt, I will address them head on; I will stop in the moment and do my best to educate," Mila added. Read her full essay here.
Stanford rape victim
The woman that Stanford student Brock Turner sexually assaulted has penned yet another powerful essay after her rapist was sentenced to only six months of jail time earlier this year. Her recent letter tells her account of events that happened after his court trial.
"If you think the answer is that women need to be more sober, more civil, more upright, that girls must be better at exercising fear, must wear more layers with eyes open wider, we will go nowhere," she wrote. "When Judge Aaron Persky mutes the word justice, when Brock Turner serves one month for every felony, we go nowhere."
"When we all make it a priority to avoid harming or violating another human being, and when we hold accountable those who do, when the campaign to recall this judge declares that survivors deserve better, then we are going somewhere," she added. Read her full letter here.
You can thank Amanda Nguyen for the newly implemented Sexual Assault Survivors' Rights Act in the United States that helps collect and protect victims' sexual assault evidence kits (also known as rape kits) from being destroyed without their consent. She, a rape survivor herself, worked extremely hard to get the bill signed by President Barack Obama after she discovered the unreasonably difficult measures she had to go through in order to protect her rape kit.
"After I was raped, I talked to a legal-advocacy centre about the process of criminal investigation and prosecution, and they said that this process is extremely time-consuming and that I needed to be prepared for this to occupy two years of my life," she explained in a Lenny Letter. "I remember I had to hang up the phone. I just cried, thinking, 'Are you kidding me? My choice is between justice or my professional career?'"
She added that the pamphlets that were given to her at the hospital told her that her rape kit will be destroyed after six months unless filed for an extension request. The process to get an extension was also extremely tedious. And then that's when she decided to put her foot down.
"It started with an email. I literally emailed everyone I knew telling them my story and why I wanted to do something. The response was enormous," Amanda said. "People were like, 'Hey, I'm a lawyer, how can I help?' or 'I'm a coder, what can I do?' Within two months of sending that email, with the help of state representatives acting as sponsors, we filed the bill in Massachusetts. Two months after that other states asked us for the bill. Then a month later, we found ourselves in the halls of the United States Congress, where the bill passed unanimously in the Senate."
Model Lindsey Wixson took to Instagram earlier this week to call out an Uber driver who had objectified her while on her way home.
"Paying pieces of sh-t to objectify you and make you feel small in a few short seconds," she said. "No sir, your insistence to make conversation and comments of no fowl [sic] play or pick up are exactly what I want to hear on my way home."
"I hate living here for many reasons and one of them being you! F-ck men who think that you owe them your obedience. I will not be told how to act or made to be objectified! @uber yes, I need help," she added.
Paying pieces of shit to objectify you and make you feel small in a few short seconds. No sir, your insistance to make conversation and comments of no fowl play or pick up are exactly what I want to hear on my way home. I hate living here for many reasons and one of them being you! Fuck men who think that you owe them your obediance. I will not be told how to act or made to be objectified! @uber yes, I need help.
Romi Bean, a cheerleader for Denver's Broncos (one of America's National Football League teams), took her cheerleading skills to the next level when she wore an inflatable T-Rex costume to her team's game against San Diego's Chargers earlier this week. And it's no small feat. For us mere mortals, it would have been impossible to even walk properly in that costume but Romi nailed her cheerleading routine to a T. And OMG, that T-Rex costume really was adorable!